It Can be lots of different triggers, but sometimes the trigger might not be the situation, it could be for example denied access to something so when the word no can be a big trigger for kids,” no don’t touch that“ and “no you can’t, go to bed”  be mindful, and instead of using those words use your language to talk about the positive behaviors and the behaviors that you want to see rather than the behaviors that you don’t want to see. for example; instead of saying don’t put your feet on the couch we just say let’s keep our feet on the floor let’s keep our shoes where they're meant to be.