A new mother might not recognize depression or anxiety because she is tired, overwhelmed, or simply adjusting to life with a baby, Or maybe she thinks that this is just part of being a new mother. It’s hard for new moms and families to know what is normal mom stuff and what is a symptom of depression. We are afraid of being seen as complaining or not able to handle motherhood. We didn’t think it could happen to us. We tend to blame ourselves for not being able to handle things instead of realizing that it is a medical condition and not a sign of failure.